If you want to catch a good guy, you must understand what the other half wants or needs. You’re not alone if you’re confused about what men want in a relationship. The battle of the sexes truly is a battle where one half often doesn’t understand what the other half wants or needs.
So as a result of this, you find too many people who are alone but together in a relationship. You’ll also find people not in a relationship but who want to be in one, yet they can’t seem to make it work when they get it.
Or it’s working but not at the level it could be. If that sounds like something you’ve experienced, you will want to find help. You can find help knowing what men want in a program like His Secret Obsession.
This way, all of the not knowing is taken off the table, and you’ll be able to approach your relationships with the knowledge you need to make them work successfully.
Most Men Will Not Say What They Want
Digging for what it means to understand a man is something you will have to do because most men will not communicate what they need or want. There’s no deep secret to that part.
Men keep things close to the vest. It’s how they’re naturally wired. You might think you must be a mind reader to figure out what the man you’re interested in likes, but you don’t.
You simply need to learn how his basic makeup operates so that you know how to understand what makes him want you. You can do some things that will not only turn him off but also make him run the other way.
It’s going great, and then all of a sudden, they’re breaking up. The one who got dumped is baffled, trying to understand what happened.
Knowing what will give you a great relationship can be hard when one of the people involved doesn’t like to be as open with his feelings, but you can work around that.
But you must face that men and women have different needs in a relationship. These various needs can drive the two of you apart. But if you know how to work them, they can be what pulls you together.
Before you get into that relationship, you go through the exciting stage. There’s a connection, and everything you say to each other seems magical. Men respond to this stage in a relationship because the woman is flirting with him.
Flirting and Desire
Flirting makes a man feel desired, and it commands his interest. But when most couples get into a relationship, this flirting is one of the first things to go. So that initial spark, that excitement dies down.
Not only is that a shame, but it can quickly lead to the man losing interest. Men have a natural-born desire to hunt. It stems from the beginning of time. It is what makes it exciting for them.
Once they get what they want from the hunt, they’re done. It is what can lead to them not flirting and losing interest. Many women wait for the man to make a move and then respond.
They don’t understand that a man wants to be desired and needs to feel that from the woman interested in him.
Hold His Interest
There seems to be a misconception that a man will lose interest if a woman isn’t the exact trim and young person she was when they met. That’s not the truth, and while staying healthy is a good goal for anyone, keeping your shape and looks is not the only thing that holds a man’s interest.
Think about it. If that were the case, you wouldn’t read about men cheating on girlfriends and wives who look like or are models. So, what tip can help a woman hold his interest?
Have Him Crave You
What will make him crave you above all other women? It’s the way that you make him feel. And you can influence his feelings by knowing what’s at the core of his feelings.
If you make a man feel like he’s desirable, that he’s sexy, and that you want to be with him, that taps into a man’s innermost need and keeps him interested. By the way, this is also one of the reasons that many men cheat on their partners.
Someone else made them feel desirable and sexy. Women who know how to care for themselves hold a man’s interest. A man doesn’t want a clingy woman who acts helpless around him.
He would prefer that the woman he’s interested in knows what she wants out of life and be someone independent. That doesn’t mean you’ll keep his interest if you give off the air of never needing him for anything.
Occasionally Show You Need His Help
A man stays interested in a woman who isn’t afraid to need his help occasionally. There can be a tendency among some women to want to be with the man as often as possible when they begin a relationship.
This behavior makes a man feel like he doesn’t have any space. And it’s guaranteed to push him away. There are all kinds of jokes online and on television about men going out with the guys or having a poker night to spend time with their buddies.
The punchline is always how the woman didn’t like it and gets angry that he chose to spend time with them over her. But this is a need that a man has just like a woman needs to spend time with other women.
Have Other Interests
It’s the being apart and having other interests that strengthen a relationship. Being together all the time and not understanding his need for space will drive him to seek it away from you permanently.
Men don’t want to be controlled any more than a woman does. Some women try to monopolize where the man goes and who he spends time with. It is a big mistake.
Encourage him to spend time with other people. There are helpful programs like His Secret Obsession that can help show you how to hold his interest by being your own person and encouraging him to do the same.
Show the Respect
You might have heard how a man wants a woman to respect him before, but you might not exactly understand what he means by this. You must do it because a man needs respect, and when he doesn’t think he has it, it makes him feel frustrated and unhappy in the relationship.
What a man means by respect is that the woman in his life needs to respect what he decides to do when he decides to do something. That doesn’t mean you must always agree with everything he says or does.
Failure to Respect
But what happens when a woman questions a man’s decision is that he doesn’t see it as her simply asking a question. He sees her not respecting that he knows what he’s doing.
A romantic partner is far more likely to question a man’s judgment than a woman he works with is. A man needs to feel respected not only in his decisions but in his opinions as well.
Does that mean you’ll automatically like or agree with everything he does? No. And it doesn’t mean you have no right to an opinion. But if you’re constantly questioning his decisions, it makes a man feel like you don’t respect him, and he feels like you don’t think he’s smart enough to be doing whatever he’s doing.
Simple Example
Men feel this lack of respect when trying to do something around the house. Maybe they’re trying to do a simple repair job. Something goes on, and it doesn’t look good to you.
Trying to be helpful, you suggest that he call an expert. That tells him you don’t respect his opinion that he can handle the job. That may not even be what you meant by your suggestion at all.
You were only trying to offer some help. But that’s not the way it’s perceived. It is crucial if you’re in the beginning stages of a relationship. Because while you feel good and are basking in the thought that you offered helpful advice, he’s thinking the opposite.
He’s thinking, “She doesn’t think I can handle this. If she doesn’t think I can handle this small job, she’s not going to think I can handle anything bigger.” From that, it branches into him thinking you don’t respect him.
A Big Problem Area for Women
You have to respect the way he communicates. It is a big problem area for women. Nine out of every ten women are better at communicating than men. Women are more likely to share how they feel about a subject and when someone says something that bothers them.
A man, on the other hand, isn’t going to do this. When a man says he doesn’t want to talk about something, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel upset by whatever is happening.
It’s not a sign that he doesn’t care. A woman must learn to respect a man in communication if she hopes for a good relationship. Many women don’t understand that when she shows respect to a man, it makes him want to be with her and more attracted to her.
What Works in Communication
Respect is a big part of communication when it comes to men. If he doesn’t think you respect him, you can be sure that the communication will be affected. A woman will often shut down communication when her feelings are hurt.
A man will often shut down communication when he doesn’t feel respected. What you say in conversation with the man in your life will go one of two ways. It will either make him feel good about himself and his relationship with you or frustrate him.
While a lack of respect for him is the biggest turn-off for a man in communication, there are other ways that you can sabotage your relationship, and might not even be aware that you’re doing this.
Other Ways to Sabotage
In a conversation, you tell your partner not to forget that he arranged to meet you for drinks at a specific time at your favorite bar. You’re excited about the meeting and didn’t want him to forget it.
That’s just being helpful. But that’s not how it comes across to the man because men don’t read communication like women do. Instead of seeing it as a help, he sees it as a nag.
And he’s thinking, “We’re not even married, and she’s nagging me to be somewhere when I already said I would.” To you, you were being helpful. To him, it’s not beneficial.
It’s a sign that you’re mothering him, and that will drive a man away. Men pay attention to how a woman acts during the first stages of the relationship. He sees it as setting the stage.
“Oh, if she’s this way now, how much worse would she get if we started dating seriously?” These situations also work the same even if you’re already married to the man.
A wife who doesn’t respect and doesn’t know how to communicate with a man can drive him away. Just because you think something doesn’t mean that’s the way that the man will see it.
Undermining Him
While you can quickly and openly discuss that weight gain with your girlfriends, you certainly wouldn’t want your guy bringing it up in a circle of your friends while you were all gathered.
It feels like an insult. That’s how a man feels when you bring up something you think needs correcting about him when you’re together in public. So what if he doesn’t have all his facts about a fishing story correct?
Or did the two of you go on an outing together? It’s better to let him publicly save face than to be correct. While a man might be strong physically, their ego can be easily damaged by what you say.
If it’s negative, don’t say it in public. If you need to address something, do it privately and ask, and don’t demand an explanation for something said.
Men and Women Communicate Differently
When it comes to communicating, men and women will always view it differently, and respecting that difference can make a man think you’re the most incredible, most straightforward woman to talk to in the world.
He might even brag to his friends that you understand him. When starting a relationship, laying the groundwork for communication is essential.
There are programs like His Secret Obsession that can help show you tips on early communication so that the relationship will be strong from day one.
Get the Commitment
A man with commitment issues is the plot line of several sitcoms. It’s a running joke that’s not funny to women who desire a commitment from men.
The 3 Tiers of Intimacy
The key to this is to build the relationship. A relationship has to have three tiers of intimacy – an emotional, a psychological, and a physical one for success.
You must know how to balance these three, so you’re not paying more attention to one area. Many women complain that the men won’t open up and let them in emotionally.
However, a key unlocks that area, allowing closer emotional intimacy with a man. Here’s a tip about men and commitment. You can’t cajole, suggest, or nag a man into making it.
But your attitude can convince him that he wants to commit to you—men like women with a positive, glass-half-full attitude over women who have a negative one.
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